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Personal CRM vs a Notion Template: Why the Template Always Breaks
A Notion relationship tracker works beautifully for three weeks. The specific reason it stops, and what a purpose-built personal CRM does differently.
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Bondo Blog
Research-backed writing on friendship, staying in touch, and the people just outside your inner circle.
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What to Say When It's Been Two Years
The message that reopens a lapsed friendship is short and does not apologise. Four openers that work, and the one that guarantees no reply.
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The Difference Between a Contact List and a Personal CRM (Most People Don't Need Either)
A contact list stores who someone is. A personal CRM stores what's between you. Here's how to tell which one you actually need, and when neither is worth the effort.
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Why Group Chats Kill Friendships One Person at a Time
A group chat feels like it's keeping everyone connected. It's actually letting each one-on-one friendship inside it quietly starve, one person at a time.
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Dunbar's Number: What It Actually Says, and What the Research Says Back
Dunbar's number is the idea that humans can maintain about 150 stable relationships, in layers of 5, 15, 50 and 150. Here is where it comes from, why researchers dispute it, and what remains useful.
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The Follow-Up Problem: What to Do After You Meet Someone
Most networking advice ends at the handshake. The research says the value is in what happens afterwards — and that mid-strength ties beat both close friends and strangers. A practical method.
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Adult Friendship Doesn't End. It Lapses.
Adult friendships rarely end in a falling-out. They lapse quietly, through nobody's fault. Here's what the data says, and the one habit that reverses it.
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How to Be a Better Friend When You Have No Time
The people who are good at friendship aren't warmer than you. They're doing four specific things — none of which require more free time than you already have.
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How to Choose a Personal CRM (Without Ending Up With a Second Job)
Most personal CRMs are abandoned within a month — not because they're bad, but because they ask for more upkeep than the problem is worth. Here's how to pick one that survives.
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How to Organize Your Contacts So They're Actually Useful
Your contacts app has 2,000 entries and tells you nothing about any of them. Here's how to clean it up — and what to store instead of phone numbers.
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The Loneliness Epidemic Isn't a Shortage of People
Most lonely people know plenty of people. What they've lost is contact with them — which is a much cheaper problem to solve than making new friends.
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What Is a Personal CRM?
A personal CRM is a private place to keep track of the people in your life — context, not contacts. Here's what one does, who needs one, and how to choose.
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The 50 People Doing More for You Than You Realize
Granovetter's classic research found acquaintances, not close friends, drive most job opportunities. Why your loosest connections get the least care.
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We Didn't Want Bondo to Feel Like an Invoice Between Friends
41% of Americans report money tension with a friend. Why shared-expense tracking should stay honest without turning into a running scoreboard.
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Your Most Useful Contact Might Be Someone You Haven't Spoken to in Years
Research on dormant ties found reconnecting with people you've lost touch with produces more novel, useful input than talking to your closest contacts.
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Half of Us Are Lonely, and Scrolling Isn't the Cure
The Surgeon General's advisory found heavy social media use nearly doubles reported isolation. Why passive contact doesn't count as staying in touch.
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The 50/90/200 Hour Problem
University of Kansas research puts real numbers on friendship: 50 hours to a casual friend, 90 to a friend, 200+ to a close one. What that means in practice.
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Why Remembering Birthdays Isn't the Point
Birthday reminder apps solved the timing years ago. The hard part is knowing what to actually say — and that needs context, not another notification.
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